How to Deal with a Jealous Spouse? Jealousy in Relationships.
Are you having a relationship with a jealous spouse? You love them so much but you find it difficult to show your love, because no matter what you do you get questioned about it? Whether it’s where you’re going, the type of friends you hang out with, or what you want to do? Well today that’s exactly what we’re going to talk about. Are you ready to find out how to deal with the jealous spouse? Here we go…
First of all let’s talk about what jealousy is. Jealousy, envy, insecurity and judgment of others is just a voice inside our head screaming “I’m not enough!” it is a fear-based emotion a bit like the other fear-based emotion we feel, like sadness, anger, depression. Jealousy is just an emotion. It could come and go in an instant, just as anger can come and go in an instant. The problem is some people can live in these emotions without knowing they are. Jealousy is simply one among those things people get trapped in, because it’s always linked with anger or past hurts. What I believe and notice often, are people who regularly feel jealous are repressing some deep-rooted anger. In most cases an injustice that happened to them, making them feel not good enough. And the problem is they never got into the practice of letting it go. Jealousy is just another way of saying “I’m angry with you,” only with jealousy we make up stories of why we’re angry. So now that we have a little understanding of where a spouse’s jealousy might be coming from, I want to let you know that you have zero control over someone’s baggage. Nor do you have the ability to heal a person. Everybody has the responsibility to try to do their own work. If someone wants to make you the cause of their problems, or believe you have the worst intentions. In most cases, there’s very little you can do to change their perception if they’re not willing to do the work on their own, and heal their own deep-rooted issues.
With that said let’s get into some things that could help us expand the scope of our relationship.
First when did this behavior even start? It’s important to identify when your partner’s jealous behavior began. Did something happen within your relationship that could have caused this insecurity? Was there a lifestyle change? For example, did they recently lose their job? Was there a loss in the family? Is there a financial strain? We are human beings and insecurity can come in stages for us, especially if there’s changes in our environment. The more we pinpoint this, the more we are able to engage our spouse in….
